I’ve mentioned before that gossip is a heart issue. Currently, my heart is super-sensitive to it. I don’t want there to be any hint of wrongdoing in my words.
…which is good, and it’s where God has me right now. BUT…I am so super-sensitive to my words that I’m a little extra strict with what I say and what I hear. This makes for an interesting dynamic in my relationships.
For example, if someone wants to vent about a frustration in a relationship, I don’t know what to do! Her heart in sharing may not be gossipy…it’s just frustration. She needs some perspective and wisdom and understanding. She isn’t sharing to tear down or slander them. She genuinely wants encouragement and counsel.
Yet, I find that that kind of situation is hard for me. Because of my gossip-y past, there’s part of me (the sinful part) that wants to hear negatives (especially if I know the person and/or if I feel like I’m competition with them).
She isn’t gossiping. But I am…? That’s weird, right? It all comes down to our hearts. My friend is sharing with a pure motive. I am listening with an impure motive. It’s tricky stuff.
It is my prayer that as time passes and as I gain more control over my words, I will be able to reengage in conversations like that without struggling. God can transform me, and I believe He will. In fact, I know He already is!